Thursday, December 31, 2009

Sach ka saamna - tagged!

Getting tagged is something that was very much in vogue when I started blogging (2005 puff! Its been a long time!!!). Now here, I am again tagged by my good friend Varun Reddy, and I thought it has really been long that I have done something like this, so why not give it a try!

Before starting, I would like to take the oath on the sacred Geeta (seen it many hindi movies) – “Mein jo kahunga sach kahunga.. aur sach ke sivay aur kuch nahi kahunga!”

Tagged By: Varun Reddy (U got me here dude!)
The ground rules
RULE 1- You can only say Guilty (means YES) or Innocent (means NO)
RULE 2- You are not allowed to explain anything unless someone messages you and asks!
RULE 3- Copy and paste this into your notes, delete mine and type in your answers and tag your friends to answer this.

I have always been an iconoclast, without much adherence to rules n crap, so RULE 2 I am sorry. I will have to explain at some places to make it more readable.

Also, RULE 3, I am sorry, as I don’t think I should compulsorily tag a few names and then get accused of missing out on others. I don’t even want to be in that phase where I keep sulking, that someone I have tagged has not cared to answer.

So, I rather make this appeal, that everyone reading this should answer these questions, and get some bhoj out of them!

Let me begin…

Asked someone to marry you? Guilty (well, wish you a very happy married life. )

Ever kissed someone of the same sex? Guilty ( well, not the kiss kiss kinds, it was just a normal game of truth or dare!!)

Danced on a table in a bar? Guilty (not exactly in a bar, but on a table in public yes, and yes I was drunk!)

Ever told a lie? Guilty (may times)

Had feelings for someone whom you can’t have back? Guilty (Long story, will take a complete post!)

Kissed a picture? Innocent (why??)

Slept in until 5 PM? Guilty (Many a times!)

Fallen asleep at work/school? Guilty (Well, I am from a B-School!)

Held a snake? Guilty (Snake park in Chennai!)

Been suspended from school? Guilty (well!)

Worked at a fast food restaurant? Innocent. ( I so regret this, I want to have this kinda experience!)

Stolen from a store? Guilty (remember stealing a bar of 5-star when I was 12 years old something. The irony – I now work for a chocolate company!)

Been fired from a job? Innocent. (I am still on my first job!)

Done something you regret? Innocent (No regrets, this is the life mantra. The bad phases due to some avoidable doing is just a learning. No regrets!)

Laughed until something you were drinking came out your nose? Innocent (now why would that happen)

Caught a snowflake on your tongue? Innocent (Snowflake??, I think a more relevant to India question would be “caught a fly on your tongue?”. The answer for this could be “Guilty”. It was unintentional though)

Kissed in the rain? Innocent (In the rain! One more thing that I desperately want to do)

Sat on a roof top? Guilty (Everyday!)

Kissed someone you shouldn’t? Innocent. (what do you mean by shouldn’t. I am not killing anyone!)

Sang in the shower? Guilty (Everyday again! I dare not do that in the open, so the shower is the safest place to vent out my throat muscles to stretch )

Been pushed into a pool with all your clothes on? Guilty (many a times. Thank you bro.. this is the way he has thought me swimming)

Shaved your head? Guilty. (heard of tirupati balaji!)

Had a boxing membership? Innocent. (again I wish I did, atleast the card would have scared many people!)

Made a girlfriend cry? Guilty or innocent (No comments!)

Been in a band? Innocent. ( I wish I did, even tried playing the guitar. Thanks you Puneet. Realized soon enough that it was not meant for me! Thank you bro, for making me realize this!)

Shot a gun? Guilty (yes, the ones we used to get during diwali!)

Donated Blood? Innocent (scared!)

Eaten alligator meat? Innocent. (I wish I get to eat it someday!)

Eaten cheesecake? Guilty (why not?)

Still love someone you shouldn’t? Innocent (again what do you mean by you shouldn’t?)

Have/had a tattoo? Guilty (yeah, Bubbaloo has tattoo promo running right now and it is cool. Marketing it through every channel)

Liked someone, but will never tell who? Guilty (now those silent crushes I am sure everyone has.

Been too honest? Guilty (dangerously so)

Ruined a surprise? Guilty (Sorry bro, I did tell mom that I was sending the gifts!, So ruined the surprise that my bro wanted to give my parents)

Ate in a restaurant and got really bloated that you couldn’t walk afterwards? Guilty (I know, it does not show in my flabber)

Erased someone in your friends list? Innocent (what difference would it make?)

Dressed in a woman’s clothes (if you’re a guy) or man’s clothes (if you’re a girl)? Innocent. (fetish, will sure try it out someday!)

Joined a pageant? Innocent. (Nah!)

Been told that you’re handsome or beautiful by someone who totally meant what they said? Guilty (many a times, and I would totally want to believe that they completely meant what they said

Had communication with your ex? Guilty (han, we still talk regularly)

Got totally drunk on the night before exam? Guilty (this is something I consider brings in good luck. Was totally drunk before CAT, JMET and even the investment management exam in L. it has worked. Whisky it has to be)

Got totally angry that you cried so hard? Innocent. (why cry when angry?)

Huh! Now I understand what do people go through when they are sitting on the wrong side of the table during “sach ka saamna” kind of shows. The sense of humuor needs to be at its best while answering any of the questions.

So, that was it guys. I now request you to take it forward and let it out!

Thursday, December 10, 2009

Love affair - 3

Now for the third part of this long love affair. The story till now, was that “she” had agreed to my proposal, and was showing strong indications. But, now I had this strong hurdle to cross – her parents.

She had set the date of me meeting her parents – feb 17th, 2007. The meeting was scheduled to happen in Hyderabad, and my dad was very supportive and encouraging. In fact, mom and dad both wanted to come along but I thought I would be better and more confident facing them alone.

February 17th, 2008

One more of those fateful days which you would never want to remember and it would anyways, never leave your memory.

Got up early. Got dressed. Prayed to god. “Lord, please please please…”. This is one gift I need badly. Grant it to me and you would never see my face again. God was surprised to receive this request from one of his biggest non believers. He had his chance now and he paid back.

I even had beer the previous night, as I think it gets lucky for me. It worked 3 months back when I proposed to her.

6:00 AM – Father called me and reminded me that this was the day. He wished me luck, and so did my mom and bro.

8:00 AM – started out to her place

12:00 AM – One of my friends called me to enquire what happened. But I was still waiting. Suddenly, I was called in and two elderly people – a lady in a well starched sari and a man in suit, asked me to sit. They did try making me comfortable and even asked if I wanted water.

I sent a good 45 minutes with them, trying to convince them that I am the best guy. I showed my smartness, and the intelligence, thanks to the arduous preparation since last many weeks.

Finally, after the grueling 45 minutes they were done, and I left. She told me later that her parents would decide in some days.

Days turned into weeks, and weeks into one whole month. Still no news from her neither her parents. I was anxious and curious. Even if it is a no, she should atleast inform me. Maybe, I would wait for some more time. Maybe I would move on with my life as it is. Maybe. But I needed the answer. This wait was killing me.

I met pavan after long and he was surprised at my state. He asked me for reasons. I was in no mood to chat. Discussion went back to college days and finally came to her. I could not hold back anymore. All the reasons came out.

She finally called one fine day in april, and we spoke for long. She informed me about her discussion with her dad about me, and asked me to wait for a couple more days when her dad would call. She did not know anything about their decision.

One fine afternoon on a hot sunny april. I was at home, just back from college after attending the exams. The last term exams were going on, and I still had three more to go. I was expecting the call anytime, and was hoping it was a positive call. I would get out of my mind, and get totally depressed and would end up screwing my exams if anything went wrong. I wanted her badly, and spent a good part of my college life pursuing her, when I should have been on the football ground, and attending parties in the MVP rooms. I even missed my farewell party, as I had gone to Hyderabad to meet her parents.

I got the call. It was from a common friend – pavan. He said, he had just got a message from her that her dad has let it out, and the result is put up online.

Overcoming my confusion, and the tension I told the same to mom. Damn! My internet was not working at the right time.

I ran to my cousin’s place, informing mom. She started her prayers, and wished me luck.

After waiting, for my cousin’s old Pentium 3 system to start and then waiting for the page to upload on the slow leased line connection, I had landed to the required page.


Wednesday, December 09, 2009

Love affair - 2

Hi Guys, am sure you all waiting for the second part of the love affair.

During the summer vacations, I had good fun. I enjoyed my time with her and got pretty close to her. We spent a lot of time together. I spoke to her about my ambitions in detail. I did not understand why she was as unattainable as projected.

Our story continued well after I came back. The first time I proposed to her was on 20th November 2005. She listened to me but gave no response. I was scared shitless after I proposed. Finally some time passed by and I was still scared. I saw all possible dreams of her refusing me. But in one corner of my mind, I still had some hope. But all my fears turned true. When I repeatedly asked her, she said "can't we stay friends for some more time?". I had no answer. But I was not ready to take no.

She told me I was too young for that, and I should wait for some more time, complete my graduation and then think about it. Graduation? I still had one whole year to go.

The association continued. I got a job from an MNC (a good American computer company, and not one of those mass recruiters) , and was having fun in the last year of college but she was still the dream. I still wanted her badly, in spite of the good job and the wonderful prospects ahead of me. We did keep in touch. I still spent time with her.

Even my father had come to know about her, and he was strictly against it. He wanted me to concentrate on my engineering and get into the MNC. I had different thoughts. My mom was supportive of this, and she encouraged me to pursue her. She just wanted me to be happy in whatever I do.

Time passed by and it was almost a year she had last said no.

The date had been decided and I met her and did the inevitable. I proposed. I tried convincing her with all my logic and hold on the vocabulary and the English language (I remember reading this somewhere – girls like guys speaking good English). She threw at me questions I was never prepared for. But, I put up a brave face.

I was sure the whole incident was a disaster. But she left the place without a word later. I waited for her response. With time, my hopes grew. She later sent an SMS saying she would give her answer on next Monday.

This time the response was positive and I was about to jump when she added, I am sure, you are one of the best guys I have come across and I would be happy if I say yes, but, I am not sure yet. She wanted me to convince her parents first.

I was dumbfounded. I did almost cry. But, the fighter in me said, don't give up. I took the wait in my stride. Our friendship continued. Little did she say an outright no. She just wanted to be completely sure.

Time passed by, and I was now in the last term of my graduation. I have to convince her, and spent nights thinking of the same and preparing for the D-Day. February was approaching.
My father repeatedly kept on asking about her. He had a very good opinion and was satisfied with my choice. He went to the extent of saying this was the first sensible decision I had ever taken in the 23 years of my existence.

The association grew stronger. I did not let her off. In one corner of my mind, she was still there. My position in college grew stronger. With it, the number of opportunities also went up.

She had said YES in January, and had said categorically that I had a little over a month to face the next hurdle. It was mid Jan 2007 and I decided to take the plunge. I gathered enough strength to do the dreaded – meet her parents. There was only one goal now and it was her.

With the help of some close confidantes, who were very much facing the same issue, we sketched the plan, and burnt the midnight oil, to pursue my dream.

Tuesday, December 08, 2009

Love Affair

Ticket please. The TT came in, asking for my ticket. I was off to a north Indian place. After showing him the ticket started staring at the beautiful view outside. Mom was sitting on the opposite seat, and jatin was fast asleep on the top berth. Staring at those lush green fields, and the wonderful trees, my memory started going to a trip. A trip, which has been rollicking, bumpy and also fun all the way.

April 29, 2006.

“The day would forever be etched in my memory. The day she rejected me and the day she said, I was not worthy enough. I had heard her reject me several times before. But this time it was different. I had convinced myself that this has to be the last time I am trying to win her. I can't forever be trying to woo her.”, manoj was ruing.

Was thinking about how it all started…!!

Thoughts came, racing back to me. I was searching for a clean pair of socks to head for a game of basketball, when I heard Pavan, my classmate at college talk about this girl. He was telling a group of our friends, how a lot of people he knew tried to woo her and failed miserably. The list seemed to be full of the who's who of my college.

I tried barging into the discussion telling him, no girl is unachievable. But being the dumb head he was, he did not listen to me. I thought wait till the day the stud (ME!) shows you my magic. No Girl is as unachievable as she seems. It's just pure chemistry buddy, I boasted.

She was destined to come into my life.

This time it was a girl from my class who was relentlessly talking about her. She was telling us how her brother tried and is currently shattered by her rejection. Every one at her home was worried about how he would cope with the dejection.

The word unachievable was still ringing in my ears. I am from the achievers club and unattainable always aroused in me a desire to prove people wrong. Me being me, I was curious to find more about her. I talked to friends and gathered a lot of details about her. I started working towards my goal.

One morning our paths crossed for the first time. The college library was where I first met her. I said hi to her. She did not bother to reply. My male ego was hurt and I left the place fuming and vowing never to see her again in life. But destiny had its own plans in store for me.

Library was destined to be the most important place in my life and Pavan one of the most influential persons. Now when I recollect, it was this association that altered my path forever.

It was 2 weeks after our initial tiff and the location, college library.

She was with Pavan and I tried avoiding meeting them. But, Pavan called after me and I had to go say Hi.

Pavan went ahead with the introductions. Pleasantries were exchanged.

Hi she said and I replied with a curt Hi.

I kept talking to Pavan, who was trying to get her into the conversation. After a futile attempt at avoiding her, she finally started (told you, I am a winner!)

"Did you feel bad the other day", she asked?

"Why should I?", I replied

"Friends??" Out of the blue she asked. Left with no better reason to say otherwise, I said yes.

The day I still remember was 21st December 2004.

This association surged ahead. In no time, I was completely enchanted by her. Thoughts about her drowned me in mire. Rest of the life took a back seat. It was she, she and she in my life. It was time for my exams. I had to pass the exams at any cost to be with her the next year. So, it was time for some serious study.

The night outs and those one day battings came to an end and the thought of staying without her for 2 months during the summer vacations bothered me. I wanted to spend the quality of my summer vacations with her. So, I requested my father to send me to join a crash course. Little did he know of my devious intentions? My father relented.